Understanding Teen Behaviour: What's Normal and What's Concerning?
One of the most common questions parents ask is:
"Is this normal teenage behaviour, or should I be worried?"
The teenage years are a time of enormous physical, emotional, and social change. As teens work out who they are and become more independent, it is normal for parents to notice changes in their mood, behaviour, and relationships.
Some behaviours that can be frustrating or confusing for parents are actually a normal part of adolescence.
Typical teenage behaviours may include:
Occasional moodiness or irritability
Wanting more privacy or time alone
Questioning rules and pushing back against authority
Becoming more focused on friends
Experimenting with different interests, styles, or identities
Ups and downs in motivation at school
Some age-appropriate risk-taking
While these behaviours can be challenging, they are often part of the process of growing up and becoming independent.
At the same time, there are certain signs that may suggest a teenager is struggling and needs additional support.
These include:
Persistent sadness, hopelessness, or depression
Significant changes in sleeping or eating habits
Self-harm or talk of wanting to die
Withdrawing from friends and family
Refusing to attend school
Extreme mood swings or intense anger outbursts
Substance use
Risky behaviours that place themselves or others in danger
Frequent statements about feeling worthless or empty
If you are concerned about your teenager, try to stay calm and curious. Listen more than you speak. Ask open-ended questions and create opportunities for connection.
Most importantly, trust your instincts. As a parent, you know your child better than anyone else.
Some stormy weather is part of adolescence. But when emotional distress or behaviour begins to significantly affect your teen's safety, relationships, or daily functioning, it may be time to seek professional support.
You don't have to navigate these challenges alone.
by Dr Michelle Beukes-King
